CK Therapy ; thoughtful reflections. Learning to sit with.
Sitting with someone in their feelings or depression rather than trying to help them up the ladder to the light can often show more care, allows the person to rest and makes it easier to take the steps in the future. • Sometimes we feel low and it can feel as though we're sat in a pit or a rabbit hole. • When we feel this way we may have no energy, motivation or ability to see the opportunity to get out. • Accepting & acknowledging that feeling helps it move faster than denying, displacing or distracting from it; it allows space to process that we feel sad, why we feel sad and helps us move forward. • So If a friend or therapist offers to climb down the ladder and sit with us in our feelings and show it's okay; it can help us accept that these sad feelings are normal. And we know we don't need to use energy acting or being happy. Which allows for space to process what's going on for us. • If we ask someone whose exhausted to go up the ladder, they may use all their energy and or you may use up all of yours trying to get them to the top. • If you allow them time to rest they can gain the energy to climb the ladder. • You can always remind them you can take each step at a time with them. A final note from a therapist's perspective; it's a difficult moment as a therapist when you are confronted with the reality that you cannot eliminate the pain of the world. It's always important to remember to sit with someone is a powerful gesture-it's vulnerable. We simply become two people sharing a moment of humanity. As the therapist, you have to trust that there is meaning in your lack of words and simple gesture of sitting with whatever emotion is coming up for the client. When we do this well, and with intention, we give our patients freedom: Permission. The ability to sit with pain and still survive. We never take for granted that the sofa is a much braver seat than the chair. To learn more about sitting with for yourself, someone you care for or about therapy ; cektherapy@gmail.com 07730569162 www.CK psychotherapy.co.uk #psychotherapy #therapist-perspective #ashbydelazouch #empathy
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CK Therapy ; thoughtful reflections
This is a beautiful poem by @emmareedturrell. It illustrates just how important it is to be mindful of the language we use and the power it has on how we feel. When we use words like ‘should’ and ‘ought’ we may be limiting ourselves by not listening to what we want to think/feel/do but instead listening to what we imagine others may want us to think/feel/do. Let’s take: “I should have gone to uni I’m wasting time” as an example. This phrase may present with a standard of what society thinks you “should” be doing and is not reflective of what’s best or how you feel for yourself. It’s very negative and self shaming. Try and change shoulds and oughts to more empathetic language and it’ll help how you see yourself. In this example for instance; do you think you should have gone to uni because other society expects you to? Reframed and checked in with your own feelings may turn into ; “I didn’t go to uni because I didn’t want to right now. I’m deciding what I want to do and if and when I feel ready I can apply. It doesn’t mean I should have gone when everyone else did or that I’m wasting my time.” This can seem easy but it can be hard to put into practice or realise you’re even doing it when it’s so ingrained. If you’d like to learn more and or have help putting this kind of reframing into practice you can contact CK therapy on; Cektherapy@gmail.com Www.CK psychotherapy.co.uk 07730569162 #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #therapist #therapistashbydelazouch #ashbydelazouch #leicstershire #shoulds&oughts #emmareedturrell #therapy A warm welcome to our new member of the compassionate team; Courteney !
A skilled integrative psychotherapist now offering evening and weekend therapy appointments for young adults and adults. When you enquire to CK Therapy we can find the best match for you. Here there are brilliant therapists here to support you with whatever it is you’re going through. The CK Therapy team; - Catherine Kniveton Managing director of CK Therapy EMDR | Psychotherapy | Art Therapist - Courteney Compassionate partner Integrative Psychotherapist - Sarah Compassionate Partner Music Therapist - Suzie Peneycard Compassionate Partner Child and adolescent trauma therapist - Carolyn Barney Compassionate partner Person Centred Psychotherapist For enquires and bookings email ; cektherapy@gmail.com 07730569162 www.CK psychotherapy.co.uk #psychotherapy #counselling #mentalhealth#ashbydelazouch #leicestershire#therapistsnearme#integrativepsychotherapy #emdrtherapy#emdrtherapistLiecestershire #Musictherapy#arttherapy See less — in Ashby de la Zouch. Ck Therapy ; thoughtful reflections.
Productivity anxiety and the power of language. Sometimes we think we’re resting but we aren’t if we are sat in guilt or the shame of what we are doing. For instance ; Do you ever find yourself sitting all night after a hard days work watching the tv thinking ‘oh I shouldn’t be doing this. I need to be doing something more productive. I’m just wasting my evening, I’m wasting my time , my life’?. Try and press pause for a moment on those critical thoughts. Instead ask yourself ‘am I enjoying watching this programme right now?’. If the answers ‘yes’ you’re not wasting your time, you’re enjoying it. I know it’s difficult but try and sit with that present moment that enjoyment feeling and you will rest as we’ve removed the guilt or shame of needing to be productive. Reframe it compassionately ; “I feel like I want to watch this programme right now and that is okay. I’m enjoying it and I’m not wasting time if I’m enjoying it.” You may simply be comparing your evening to others or imagining what others expect you to do. So remember; - Take a breath - check your feelings in this moment - remove comparisons and guilt - replace and reframe with a kind compassionate response. For more information and a greater understanding of productivity anxiety feel free to contact CK Therapy. cektherapy@gmail.com 07730569162 www.CK psychotherapy.co.uk #mentalhealth #anxiety #understandingmentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #productivity-anxiety #therapy #therapist #mentalhealthsupport #ashbydelazouch #therapistsinashbydelazouch #counselling |
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